Of course you do! My own kids did also when they got married. Children can add such a sweet touch to the ceremony, just as much as those sweet little edible wedding favors. However, the day can be a disaster without some much needed preparation.
When it came time for my oldest daughter to get married, her youngest sister was only 3 years old and was the flower girl. She wanted her little gown to emulate her bridal gown. It was difficult, but we accomplished it.
She looked adorable and the rehearsal went very well, so we thought we were free and clear. Not true! She was getting antsy once the wedding ceremony kicked in. We fed her, played games with her, held her, did everything we could to keep her from making a scene, but a kid is a kid. So the bridal party began walking down this VERY long aisle as the wedding processional music began. The last one to walk down the aisle before bride was my youngest daughter, the hungry, miserable, and tired 3 year old. When it was her turn to go, she refused and screamed loud right there in the church. When we had one of the younger boys help her down the aisle, she began to scream even louder and threw herself on the floor in a mini tantrum, crying for me. Well, there went the poise of the mother of the bride and she never did walk down the aisle. We were never able to get her in those pictures. The entire church was stressed and my daughter, the bride, was late walking down the aisle. Now what age should you consider allowing children to join the bridal party?
So besides eliminating those unique wedding favors, do you decide to eliminate the really little children? I wouldn’t, because children can be a precious and wonderful addition to any wedding. You just have to know the rules when dealing with kids and you’ll be okay.
If it’s a night wedding, a nap would be very wise for them. Make sure they get lots of sleep. During the rehearsal, make sure they rehearse their part several times more than the adults. If the adults are having a problem remembering what to do, just think about what that little one is going through. Also, if the child is under 6 years old, be sure to have an older child or adult that is in the wedding party walk with them. I’ve learned through experience, that it is an insurance policy much like those inexpensive wedding favors. Another great tip is to put a piece of tape on the floor where the child is to stand after walking down the aisle. They will feel more assured and secure and so will you!
You young ones will be OK if you follow the rules and be aware of their age. They usually tend to be forgotten in the middle of the craziness of the day. Don’t worry, if you forget them, and they’ll make sure their presence is known!
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